What Does a Marriage Counselor Do?

Marriage counseling is a very complicated process, not a simple one. Marriage issues are related to personality. Fosdick, a famous American marriage psychologist, once said, "There are no failed marriages in the world, only those who fail. All marriage problems reflect the nature of human beings." Professor Song Jiayu, chief expert of China Marriage Counseling and Aid Network, and a well-known expert in marriage psychology in China, wrote in his book "Marriage in Pulse" that "Almost all marriage problems are related to the personality of a person. It is because both spouses have better personality traits or healthier personality traits. Marriages that have problems often result in at least one of the spouses having one or more deficiencies or problems in their personality or certain aspects of the personality. These problems are directly or indirectly Affect their marital and family relationships. "

Marriage counselling

(1) Emotional counseling for unmarried and married persons;

(2) Premarital counseling and counseling for unmarried men and women;

(3) Provide counseling and counseling for husband and wife relationship adjustment;

(4) Provide counseling and counseling for family interpersonal relationship adjustment;

(5) Help the parties to resolve various marriage and family crises;

(6) Provide parental self-education and parent-child education consultation and counseling;

(7) Provide counseling and counseling to divorced and remarried people;

(8) Provide counseling and counseling on family health and safety.

Abroad, one in every 10 households

Marriage counseling is a counseling service for love and marriage that helps coordinate partners and marriage relationships and eliminates psychological barriers caused by marriage problems. Marriage counseling is generally believed to originate from the "Berlin Institute of Sex" founded by Hirschfeld (M) in 1919. Marriage counseling is not only an important work content of psychological counseling institutions and mental health institutions, but it has also formed some independent counseling institutions, such as: "London Marriage Guidance Center" (1943), "American Institute of Family Relations" (1930) "Tokyo Metropolitan Counseling Office: (1933), and the psychological counseling service station of the Women's Federation of China.

(2) The content of marriage counseling is extensive

(1) Emotional counseling for unmarried or married persons;

(2) Counseling and adjustment of the psychology before and after marriage;

(3) Problems related to sexual organs and sexual life disorders;

(4) Psychological and physical problems related to marriage; such as fear, exclusion, restlessness, lack of sex, etc .;

(5) Legal and ethical issues related to marriage; for example, extramarital affairs, cohabitation before marriage, non-marital births, marriage contract liability, etc .;

(6) Social and cultural issues related to marriage, such as marriage issues of different races, nationalities, nationalities, and religions, and marriage issues of different cultural, economic, and social statuses.

(1) Two-way. Marriage counseling is made up of both the counseled person and the counselor. Among them, the counselor plays a leading role in the entire process, but the consulting object is the main body in the marriage and counseling process. Both parties must cooperate and influence each other. Among them, the counselor uses his own normal psychology and rich knowledge in marriage and counseling to influence and change the psychological tension or abnormal psychology of the counseled subject, so as to change it to a positive and healthy direction.

(2) Versatility. Human mental state and mental structure are composed of many aspects, including knowledge, emotion, will, and personality. People's psychological problems are often manifested in these aspects, and their manifestations are different due to individual differences. In marriage and counseling, the counselor should start with the weak link of the object of consultation, and resolve it first, from point to face, so that the marriage and counseling can get good results.

(3) Sociality. People live in society, and all aspects of society will inevitably have an impact on their psychological activities. Marriage counseling cannot be carried out in a vacuum of society. Therefore, the counselor's help to the counseling subject is only part of various factors. Various other factors in society will affect the effectiveness of marriage counseling. Some will promote the effect of marriage counseling, while others will run counter to the effect of marriage counseling. Therefore, the counselor must try to mobilize factors in the society that are conducive to the effectiveness of marriage and counseling, such as contacting his school and work unit, uniting his pace, and jointly helping the counselor to face and solve problems.

(4) Progressiveness. Involving general common sense questions in marriage and counseling, the counselor can quickly eliminate the doubts of the counseling subject through knowledgeable answers. However, when some serious psychological and physical problems related to marriage and love are involved, the process of marriage and love counseling is gradual. Because, the bad psychological quality and psychological abnormality of people in marriage and love can not return to normal immediately after one consultation. Therefore, for those who have experienced psychological and physical problems, marriage and counseling should be conducted with goals and steps. Can't hope to succeed once.

Marriage counseling is a process in which counselors help the counsel to solve problems by providing and using relevant knowledge. It can be roughly divided into four stages: (1) The stage of mastering materials, which is mainly to collect and understand the basic demographic data, social background and basic information of marriage of the counseled object. Such as: age, race, occupation, marriage history, number of years of marriage, the main problems in marriage. (2) In the diagnosis and analysis stage, analyze and guide the main issues in marriage with a holistic view of the relationship, fully mobilize and give play to the initiative and autonomy of the counseled person, and help them find a feasible solution. (3) In the persuasion and assistance stage, the counselor must work with the counselor to make an optimal choice from a variety of possible actions and possible costs for the marriage issue, provide a large amount of relevant information, and take necessary solutions to the problem. (4) In the inspection and consolidation phase, after the consulting subject leaves the consulting agency after consultation, the consultant should continue to conduct follow-up research. The methods generally include telephone inquiries, interviews with consulting subjects, and holding related seminars.

1. Go to a psychological consulting company or studio for marriage psychological counseling (generally for individual individuals);

2. Go to marriage and family consulting companies and studios for marriage and family consultation (usually for couples or the entire family system);

3. Remote consultation via telephone and network (such as directly dialing the consultation phone, adding the consultant's QQ, or going to the "

1. Respect the service object and meet the service needs; ^[1]

2, protect personal privacy, and strictly observe consulting secrets;

3. Adhere to honesty and trustworthiness, and prohibit the abuse of credit;

4, civilized language, appropriate quality and ability;

5. Follow public order and good customs, and abide by laws and regulations;

6. Promote family virtues and promote social harmony.