What Should I do if I Am a Victim of Violence?

Cold violence, a form of violence, is manifested in many ways through indifference, contempt, indulgence, alienation, and indifference, causing mental and psychological violations and injuries to others. There are two main types of cold violence. One is domestic cold violence, and the other is cold violence in the workplace. In fact, they are all psychological abuse.

Cold violence

(A form of violence)

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Cold violence in the workplace. In this phenomenon, the older generation is the active side of the cold violence, and the newcomer becomes the passive side. The source of cold violence comes from old employees. They have two attitudes towards new people. One is that the new people have no experience, so the old employees hold empiricism and ignore the new people. Another reason is that the old employees are not confident. The momentum is always strong, the work is more enthusiastic, and the knowledge is more extensive. Old employees are afraid that newcomers will overwhelm themselves, so they begin to use uncooperative and ignorant methods to violence newcomers.

If you ca nt deal with it correctly, the newcomer s frustration will become stronger and the enthusiasm of the job will decline, and the old employee is not the winner of this violent battle. On the contrary, the old employee loses the respect of the newcomer. As employees grow up, this old employee may become the target of violence by new employees, forming a vicious circle. At the same time, the old employees also lost a capable assistant in the process, and the opportunity to learn from each other and grow together.

Psychologist Dr. Liu Jiji surveyed more than 2,000 families in Beijing, Tianjin, Wuhan, and Changsha and found that 93% of families were dissatisfied with the quality of their marriage, and more than 70% of families had varying degrees of " Cold violence. "

Family "cold violence" is different from physical violence. It is difficult to obtain evidence, it is difficult to define, and it is more difficult to characterize. There are no clear laws and regulations, and there are no rules to protect rights. Women's federations and other agencies can only coordinate.

Legal experts believe that treating "cold violence" in the family should not be restricted from a legal perspective, but should be resolved from a moral perspective, because this is a "housework" between husband and wife. Once outsiders intervene, they may intensify contradictions and even lead to more serious consequences.

Cold violence domestic violence

Most people who experience "cold violence" at home have the feeling that no one can sue, there is no place to judge, and there is no way to rely. In this regard, Fan Liyun, a national psychological counselor and senior marriage and family instructor, proposed that the husband and wife are unwilling to speak and can communicate in other ways, such as sending a text message, writing an email, or writing what they want to say to the other party. On paper; you can gradually communicate from your child's study and life; as an oppressed party, you must learn to make yourself happy, continuously enrich yourself, and enhance your self-worth; care about each other in the details of life.

Fan Liyun also mentioned that before getting married, it is necessary to fully understand each other's growth background and see if there is a history of domestic violence in the other's family, because domestic violence is "hereditary." Mr. Fan also warned young people now that they should take marriage seriously and not act arbitrarily, otherwise it will be too late to regret the problem.

Cold violence in the workplace

White-collar tricks: understand and pretend

Experts' confusion: The boss's dissatisfaction with his subordinates is based on the company's overall interests. There is no problem with this starting point, but the method is wrong. Supervisors cannot allow subordinates to make mistakes, but there must be a bottom line for the number and degree of mistakes. When employees make achievements, they must encourage employees to maximize their advantages from the perspective of appreciating employees, rather than just picking mistakes. . After making mistakes, employees can talk to him at an appropriate time, ask the reasons for the failure, and give suggestions and methods, so that the employees will have a sense of belonging to the company and are more willing to do their best to fight for the company's interests. When employees encounter criticism, don't have a confrontational mentality with their superiors, do more self-reflection, or actively communicate with the leader, express their own confusion, and seek help, so as to avoid negative psychology.

White-collar tactics 2: Actively communicate with your boss and think differently

Experts' confusion: In the workplace, in fact, everyone's subconscious mind wants the attention and appreciation of leaders, but unfortunately, only one or two are valued by leaders, so jealousy will be among others Grow, and these people who are also not valued, start to form small groups and take the initiative to isolate the favored.

At this point, the passive party can't do anything else. If this goes on, even if you work well, the leader will think that you have no spirit of cooperation. Therefore, you must first accept the fact that you are isolated, then take the initiative and Sufficient patience to keep a low profile and help when other colleagues need help at work. The active party should understand that even if you isolate the other party, there is no benefit. It is better to strengthen your ability. Learning like a good colleague is the positive attitude of work.

In addition, some people, in addition to segregating colleagues, also spread their privacy and laugh at colleagues. Although these behaviors are not directly cold violence, the end result is cold violence. Many people fight against each other in various ways in order to survive in the competition. The purpose of hitting others is to elevate yourself. This vicious competition will affect work. Therefore, it is necessary to turn the competition into a benign competition and improve together in the competition.