What Is Gold Therapy?

The Golden Rule: Proposed by the famous American psychologist Albert Ellis, the founder of reasonable emotional therapy, it refers to "treat others like you want others to treat you."

The Golden Rule: Proposed by the famous American psychologist Albert Ellis, the founder of reasonable emotional therapy, it refers to "treat others like you want others to treat you."

Chinese name

Golden rule

Applied discipline

psychology

Application range

Clinical and Counseling Psychology

Golden Rule Concept

The founder of reasonable emotional therapy, the famous American psychologist Ellis, provides us with a "golden rule": "treat others like you want others to treat you." In other words, you treat others the way you want others to treat you. In real life, many people do not know or do not use the "golden rule". Many people hold on to the concept: "Whatever I do to others, others must treat me"-this is exactly the so-called "anti The Golden Rule. " ^[1]

Specific content of the golden rule

Interpersonal communication needs to follow some rules. Psychology refers to the golden rule of interpersonal relationships as "treat others the way you want others to treat you", including:

Golden Rule Reciprocity Principle

The foundation of interpersonal relationships is mutual respect and support. No individual will accept others for no reason. There is a prerequisite for likes, mutuality is a prerequisite, and people like those who also like them.

Golden Rule Exchange Principle

Interpersonal communication is a social exchange process. The principle of exchange is that individuals expect interpersonal communication to be valuable to themselves. That is, in the process of communication, the gain is greater than the loss, at least equal to the loss. Interpersonal communication is the result of choices made by both parties based on their own values. ^[2]

Golden Rule Self-Protection Principle

The protection of self-worth is a psychological activity of self-support tendency, the purpose of which is to prevent self-worth from being denied and degraded. Since self-worth is established through the evaluation of others, individuals are extremely sensitive to the evaluation of others. Individuals who affirm self-worth are identified and accepted by individuals, and affirmed and supported by others; others who are negative self-worth are alienated. The "golden rule" is a special term in psychology, but in reality, many people can't do this. It is how I treat others and others should treat me the same. It is called "anti-golden rule". In fact, the deep truth is that what a person does may bring about the result he wants, but it is not absolute. What or how to do it is up to you, but what kind of things or reactions others will make. It is out of my control. ^[3]