What Is Narcissistic Personality Inventory?

Everyone has a narcissistic complex, but people with excessive narcissistic personality disorder have mental health problems. Such patients often suffer from anxiety and depression due to poor interpersonal relationships and the gap between their current work status and their ideal goals. This is narcissism.

Narcissism

Everyone has a narcissistic complex, but people with excessive narcissistic personality disorder have mental health problems. Such patients often suffer from anxiety and depression due to poor interpersonal relationships and the gap between their current work status and their ideal goals. This is narcissism.

Chinese name

Narcissism

Classification

Proper noun

Features

"Fuzzy Boundaries", "Helplessness and Control"

Definition

Narcissistic personality disorder

Narcissism

Narcissism

Psychological characteristics are "fuzzy borders", "helplessness and control", "focus and dependence", and so on. The difference is that narcissists caused by doting and over-protection form "self-centered" personality traits, they are active invaders in the psychological space of others; while narcissists who lack love and break parent-child relationship form a "passive dependence" type Personality traits. They are passive controllers. They attach themselves to an object and gain a false sense of security in control and dependence. However, no matter what the situation is, narcissists are always weak and frustrated deep in their hearts. They lack a true self and the ability to use social resources effectively to obtain psychological satisfaction.

Gene sequencing In the age of genetic science, many people have put forward the idea that all narcissistic tendencies are wholly buried in gene sequencing.

1. Identify your own superiority:

The most important feature of a narcissistic personality is that it recognizes its own superiority, feels like a privileged person, and firmly believes that it deserves the unconditional love and help of others to take everything for granted. Lack of empathy, no desire to recognize or identify with the emotions and needs of others.

Out of an unrealistic awareness of their own strength and importance, the narcissist pays too much attention to his needs and always considers his needs to be justified, so he has the right to act rashly. They expect unconditional love from others, regardless of how often they ignore the needs of others. The situation and feelings of others have never been considered by them. They look at others, but in reality they still see themselves as the one who needs to be satisfied. Seeking superiority is an indelible dream in their lives, and only this dream can give life a sparkling meaning.

2. Depression and Depression:

If they are frustrated and fail to realize their idealized image in time, they will feel depressed and hopeless. Therefore, all kinds of cultural systems that can pinpoint this sense of superiority, including organized religions, various forms of blocs, competition, honors, and hierarchies of various forms, will become places for narcissists to pin their hearts on.

In the rapids of their lives, they strive to find secular glory, a marker of social success, and a shabby romantic mood.

However, on this road to supreme superiority, human souls are bound to be tested again and again. Each frustration will actually cause self-despise and self-torture. In order to preserve yourself, people must inevitably give up the truth Self.

Narcissism is to whitewash mediocrity by overly beautifying and elevating the details of life, while at the same time shaping the ideal self for others. Narcissism is a psychological cosmetic, and it is not only for showing to others, but also to please yourself. Over time, I can't see my true face, and I don't know that I have fangs. The narcissist actually needs a mirror to see herself all the time.

3. Early conditions are superior:

Narcissistic people are often children with a wealthy background from childhood, loved and admired, and have extraordinary talent, IQ or beautiful appearance. In their early experience, there was no healthy friction with the wishes and wills of others, nor did they need to achieve that sense of value through achievement, which led them to an unrealistic sense of power and arrogance. Fascinated by dramatic glory, and has no doubt that he should maintain the superiority that he has accepted since childhood. They look forward to lasting good fortune and rely on fate and others to fulfill their wishes. Their self-confidence gives them better social adaptability, but at the same time their selfishness and disregard for the feelings of others will inevitably lead to difficulties in close relationships. For them, love often means only to be loved. In fact, they don't know how to love and they don't have the ability to love.

Regarding the causes of narcissistic personality disorder, the classic psychoanalytic theory explains this: the patient cannot bet his own instinctual psychological power on an external object, and the power stays inside, forming narcissism. Modern object-relationship theory holds that the narcissistic personality disorder is characterized by "self as an object", or, in layman's terms, "you don't distinguish between me and him," he said. The reason for this is that patients have experienced interpersonal trauma in their early experiences, such as long-term separation from their parents, discord between parents, or their parents' attitudes toward them are too rude or doting. Having such experiences makes patients feel that it is safe and right for them to love themselves.

In Kohut's view, it can be traced back to childhood as an infant. According to the study of the object relationship theorist Mahler et al., This obstacle is about one and a half to three years old. Kohut believes that every individual has a tendency to be arrogant and exaggerated during his infancy. For example, an infant will cry if it is not satisfied. In the infant s psychological world, he or she is almighty God. . When this God is satisfied by the caregiver (self-object), he gains happiness. If you are not satisfied, you are furious because your frustration cannot be achieved. This unsatisfactory situation often happens by accident in infant rearing, but if the baby-raising person treats the baby for such a long period of time, it means that the baby cannot obtain exaggerated self-narcissistic satisfaction for a long time. If the pairing with internal expectations is not successful, the baby will be disappointed with the external, and the brain will abandon the normal nourishing and nourishing loop circuit according to the actual situation, and replace the need for compensating for this narcissism with the self-fantasy loop circuit. Such fantasies often prevent the self from understanding the reality of normal narcissism, and beyond the acceptable range of ordinary people to form their own and excessive narcissism, so there will be similar exaggerated personality of the above narcissistic personality disorder which performed.

At the same time, if the caregiver often has emotional problems, he will also reflect the anger of his narcissism failure at the same time, and internalize it into the baby's psychological information processing system in the interaction with the baby, and become the baby's future. Unconsciously judging certain basic feelings in interpersonal relationships. So in a famous video experiment by British subject-relational scientist Winnicott, because a happy baby has been with a depressed mother for more than an hour, the baby's face has become as depressed as the mother. This is the famous view mentioned by Kohut: the internalization of transformation. In the long run, it will have a direct impact on the interpersonal emotional ability of infants and adults. This is the basis of internal expectations that affect the future development of babies.

Narcissists in the concept of clinical psychotherapy, that is, "narcissistic personality patients", whether they are lucky or unlucky narcissists, they find a suitable parent (self-object), which is quite a Difficult things. The narcissist's psychology is often extremely immature. From the perspective of psychological age, narcissists are very small and very naive, it is estimated that they are only a few months to one and a half years old.

A child came to this world wow, and in the first few months, the child was unable to distinguish his body from his mother's body. For example, he does not know whether the hands in front of him are his own hands or his mother s hands. He does not have his own sense of physical boundaries. He and his mother (mother) are in a symbiotic state without distinction. Symbiosis. "

In fact, if it is carefully divided, the child is in an "absolute symbiosis state" with the mother during the pregnancy in October and 4-6 months after birth, which is called the "absolute symbiosis period". At about 4-6 months, the child enters the second stage, which I call the "relative symbiosis period". At this stage, the child gradually gains a sense of the boundary of his body through "perceptual feedback". He is aware that Some are mom's body organs, and some are their own organs. Once this sense of boundary occurs, the child begins the process of separation from the mother, and the child will have anxiety with this separation.

Generally speaking, relative symbiosis ends around the age of two. And babies 4-6 months old, because they have no sense of border, can't distinguish themselves from their mothers, and they are in a state of ignorance, even if strangers hug them. But if an 8-month-old child is afraid, they will be afraid of separation from their mother, and children without a mother will feel scared and unsafe. A child about 1 year old will have a strong interest in the mirror, and he looks at the mirror to confirm his image. However, a puppy will do the same, except that it may not find a mirror, often reflecting its image in the water by the pond or the river. Children and puppies gradually differentiate themselves from the world through this behavior. The establishment of a baby's sense of self-boundary is a gradual process and a naturally occurring process, which usually ends before the age of 18 months to two years.

Under normal circumstances, children after the age of two have a weak sense of fear of strangers, and they can completely play with other children in a state of separation from their mothers. Psychological trauma is the only reason why a person's psychological age stays at a certain moment in the past. The various psychological traumas of the narcissistic personality patient during the relative symbiosis period of 6-18 months can be roughly divided into two situations: one is "doting" and "overprotection"; the other is "lack of care" and "mother and child" Emotional break. " In either case, a narcissistic personality is formed.

The first step is to guide patients to lift their self-centered outlook on life.

The most important feature of narcissistic personality is self-centeredness, and the most intense phase of self-centered psychology in life is the infancy. To treat narcissistic personality, one must understand infantile behavior. Invite a person close to you as a supervisor. If there is a strong self-centered behavior, give a warning and prompt, and urge yourself to make timely corrections. Through these efforts, self-centeredness will gradually disappear.

The second step is to guide patients to learn to love others.

For patients with narcissistic personality disorder, it is not enough to just abandon the self-centered concept. You must also learn to love others. Only in this way can you truly realize that it is a wise choice to abandon the self-centered concept. To gain the love of others, you must first give your love. The love of narcissistic personality disorder is like the love of young children and immature love. As long as there is more love for others in life, the symptoms of narcissism will naturally ease.