What Is Only Child Syndrome?

This disease is also known as the "four two one" syndrome, a term coined for a foreign female journalist. She believes that in many families in modern China, four elderly people and two parents revolve around an only child. The children who grew up in their doting environment are all "little emperors", which caused them to have a series of pathological reactions in psychological and physical aspects.

One-child doting

In the current family, because the only child is loved by their parents, grandparents and grandpas, a special "four-two-one baby" situation has formed in the family. They often lack the necessary competition and housework discipline: they are overly spoiled, and easily have bad tempers such as willfulness, liberty, quirks, partial eclipse, selfishness, divergent groups, and domineering.

Introduction to the only child's doting

The first is willfulness, pride, selfishness, and inability to live independently. This is because parents love their children inexorably, accustomed to them in principle, and used to it. As a result, instead of helping children to become successful, they turn their children into "embroidered pillows" that are willful, pride, and incapable of independent living. Arrogant, with me at the core; some have unusual emotions and are lonely and outlier.

The second is malnutrition: because they are the only seedlings, the elders do everything they can to meet the child's requirements. Even if it is unreasonable, the child will give whatever he likes, and food that he does not like, although it is necessary for physical development, he will not give eat. Over time, the habit of partial eclipse and picky eaters has been formed, causing nutritional intake disorders. According to surveys by experts, children in our country are generally anaemic and zinc deficient, either obese or too thin. "O-shaped legs", "chicken breasts", "poor calcification of teeth", "caries" and other diseases are not uncommon.

Basic characteristics of only child doting

What are the reasons for the loss of appetite in the one-child doting child

Traditional Chinese medicine believes that the stomach is rich, which means that people eat more and eat less, and whether digestion and absorption after eating is closely related to the function of the spleen and stomach. Therefore, when the appetite is poor, the child's spleen and stomach should be considered first.

Deficiency in the stomach: The function of the stomach is generally low, coupled with unclean diet, overeating and cold, or cold in the stomach, causing cold to condense in the stomach and causing disease, which leads to poor appetite. The treatment should be based on warming and dispersing cold, and Lizhong pills can be taken. If the disease is mild, you can drink it with dried ginger and brown sugar. Should not drink cold, greasy, do not get cold during sleep, children sleep in the summer, it is best to add a cloth pocket or cover a small bath towel.

Stagnation of stomach: Most children are caused by inadequate diet, overeating or eating food that is not easy to digest, which leads to accumulation of hangovers and stagnation of stomach. In addition to not wanting to eat, you can also see warm rot, swallowing acid, vomiting, constipation or diarrhea, thick greasy tongue coating, this disease is often seen in indigestion, acute gastroenteritis and other diseases. Treatment should be based on digestion and stagnation. Can take Xiaoshidaozhi pills, Baohe pills and other drugs, usually to strengthen the education of children's eating habits, not partial eating, overeating, overeating.

Insufficient stomach yin: It is more common in children with gastritis or acute fever. In addition to the lack of appetite, the main symptoms are dry mouth, dry lips, dry stools, red tongue, little Jin, and pulse count. Treatment should be based on nourishing yin and clearing heat, and Qingweisan can be added or subtracted. Usually eat a spicy, greasy diet, but drink more raw porridge.

Weak spleen: It is mainly due to spleen deficiency and lack of nutrition. The main symptoms are lack of food, bloating, loose stools, less gas, lazy limbs, muscle wasting, chlorosis, and slow pulse porridge. It is more common in chronic gastritis, hepatitis, Enteritis, and disorders such as nutritional disorders and general weakness. This disease is mostly caused by eating disorders, or too much fatigue due to fatigue, or vomiting and diarrhea. Treatment should use Yiqi Jianpi method, Liujunzi powder available. Usually pay attention to the combination of work and rest, do not let children be too tired, pay attention to sleep well, eat less sugar, diet should be digested.

Dampness and heat in the spleen and stomach: It is more common in diseases such as acute gastroenteritis and jaundice hepatitis. In addition to poor appetite, abdominal distension, heavy limbs, unpleasant stool, yellow tongue, greasy tongue, pulse count, etc. Cards are mostly due to feeling the evil of hot and humid, or the diet is not proper, over-eating fat, resulting in hot and humid, the spleen and stomach. Treatment should be based on clearing dampness and heat, and Yinchenhaosan can be used. Usually we must strengthen the education of children's eating and drinking habits, pay attention to washing hands before and after meals, eat less snacks, do not eat unclean food.

Slump of temper: Also called depression of qi or depression of qi deficiency, it is a symptom that the temper can not be lifted. In addition to loss of appetite, shortness of breath, fatigue, swallowing, stomach sagging, prolonged discharge, etc. can be seen. This card is mostly caused by long-time exhaustion or excessive fatigue caused by spleen. The main treatment should be Yiqi Shengqi, and Buzhong Yiqi Pill can be used. Because the disease develops after a long period of illness, children should be treated early when they are sick, and care should be taken after the illness.

In addition to spleen and stomach disease can affect children's loss of appetite, there are other factors, such as colds, lung diseases and so on.

What is the general manifestation of the doting of the only child doting parents

At present, four elderly people in the family, a pair of parents love one child, doting has become a serious social problem, but parents cannot distinguish the line between education and doting, and they cannot master the methods and the right attitude. There are several common manifestations of doting, so parents and grandparents can compare them in order to specifically prevent and correct doting.

The first kind of doting is special treatment for children

The child has a high status in the family, special care everywhere, and delicious food belongs to him alone; the family can not have a birthday, but his birthday is a big deal; and what toys and clothes to buy and so on. Such children feel special, are used to being superior, have no compassion, and do not care about others.

The child should be regarded as an ordinary member of the family, the child should be educated to take care of and respect the elderly, and the child should be encouraged to "creek the people" and "love others for pleasure".

The second kind of doting performance is to easily meet the child's material requirements

Children buy whatever they want, and they are always used to expressing or compensating for their love. This will make the child develop no cherish things, pay attention to material enjoyment and bad character of others, without patience and hardship.

Never satisfy the child's material requirements; generally, do not immediately meet the child's material requirements, so that the child has some waiting and patience. Tell your children that the pursuit of life, even a small goal, will not be smooth. In an active life, there are too many things to wait, endure, overcome difficulties and strive for.

The third kind of doting performance is lazy life

Parents allow children to eat and drink disorderly, sleep late, not eat, watch TV or surf the Internet late at night, and so on. Such a grown-up child lacks self-motivation, curiosity, can't be quiet and focused, and has no intention of doing things.

Parents should strictly require their children to live a regular life. To do it: Cultivate children's orderly lifestyle and eating habits. Help your child develop the habit of watching TV, surfing the Internet, and sleeping on time.

The fourth kind of doting is not letting children work

When talking about the child's labor, some parents even said, "It's not worth the trouble to ask him to do something. I'd rather do it for him. "So four- and five-year-olds do nt wear shoes or clothes by themselves. Children who go to elementary school or even middle school do nt do any housework, they do nt understand the joy of work and help parents reduce the burden of responsibility.

The prevention and correction method is to educate and encourage children to do their own things. After doing so, parents should affirm and praise in time, create a happy atmosphere of labor, and often do things with children.

The fifth kind of doting performance is all arranged instead

Many parents regard their children as "little emperors". They are very fond and very accustomed to being nanny and slaves. They have everything in their lives. For a long time, parents arrange their living and study supplies. As a result, the child lacks love, loses self-confidence, and develops a bad personality of dependence, laziness, and weakness.

Parents should encourage and arrange their children to do what they can. Let him wear shoes and clothes, organize toys and school supplies. This not only cultivated his labor habits and self-reliance, but also enhanced his sense of responsibility and self-confidence.

The sixth kind of doting is to protect children

Sometimes the father disciplines the child, and the mother guards it: "Don't be too strict, he's still young." Sometimes the parents discipline the child, and grandparents come out and say, "Don't be too rush, he will grow up naturally when you are young; when you were young, you were far away. It's far from him! "Just like Jia Zheng and Jia's mother managing Baoyu. As a result, not only the child's personality is distorted, but sometimes it also causes family disharmony.

Only by a unified understanding and methods of the family can children be educated. When a parent is educating his child, the adult in the family should show a supportive attitude and cooperate with tacit understanding. This is to truly love the child. .

Consequences of the only child's addiction

Doting has caused the child to become overly dependent. Under this reliance, they lived in clothes to stretch out their hands, to open their mouths, and even domineering. Or self-closing. Doting will cause the child's frustration to be low, leading to the "egg shell effect". Children who grow up under the influence of doting have poor psychological tolerance for failure, frustration, and accidental shocks. The beloved child has always lived in a world where he is always right, without being frustrated and educated. Psychologically, they often show arrogance, arrogance, fear of setbacks, and fear of interaction. They have no independent mind to treat people. Therefore, once such children enter the society, they will be frustrated when they encounter frustration and cannot adapt. The result of doting is to make the child self-willed and dependent. The normal mind is greatly damaged.

All in all, coddling can lead to children's inability to stand on their own, lack of independence, inability to deal with social life, and greatly affect children's future lives.