Can you praise the baby too much?
We have often been told that when we praise a child, we increase their self -confidence and help them become more confident and increase their happiness. But now it seems that all types of praise are not the same and some forms of praise can be harmful to children. The article after the 2007 bronson, performed in the magazine New York Magazine , entitled "How not to talk to his children: inverse power of praise" refers to a study conducted by psychologist Carol Dweck. From the Dweck study, he found that the story of a child "you are smart", corresponds to insufficient education in the classroom. On the contrary, if we praise the child by emphasizing that their work helps them "growing their brain muscle" or at a gathering of greater intelligence, it is more likely that they will have higher success at school. Students who became acquainted with the concept that achieves intelligence was the process, instead of the concept that they were naturally smart, the tendency was more inclined to be more inclined to work. Some students in the Dweck Study Group have been toldthat the brain was like any muscle. It developed, the harder it was, that it was working, and many replied that they even decided to work on more difficult material to "develop" the brain muscle.
Children who were considered "smart" or who were praised as their intelligence tend to have two reactions to this information. When the work appeared hard, in general they did not want to do it and usually do not affect the class. They made a logical jump that the work should be easy because it was smart, and when it wasn't, they were easily frustrated. Also, due to the selection, they chose easier work to show and prove that they were smart.
In fact, this study will pick up the other mental health of professionalism 'work on what happens when we praise a child. Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish how to talk to keep children listening and listening to, so the kids will talk , publishedIn 1980, a similar case for the way we praise a child could indeed have an adverse or inverse effect. They advocated praise focused on a child who would help the child gather more self -esteem.
When we praise the child by saying, "You are smart," praise focuses on us. The child learns several things. They learn that parents are proud when the child seems to be smart and is thus cast into the role of being smart. As a result, a child who is not willing to make mistakes or to do anything that a parent's pride would take away. Suppose a parent instead says, "I see how hard you worked on this sentence and your spelling really improved. You have to be proud of yourself."
Instead of asking a child to be smart when you praise a child, acknowledge the child's improvement, and also indicating that the best source to find pride is inside. When we praise the child in the second example, we emphasize hard work and the process of intellectual development. The child does not have to be perfect, just have to evolve and hard PRAcknowledge to deserve such praise, and should also be proud of himself.
A detailed praise that focuses on choosing a child, perspective and real work can be better than simple, "gentlemen, you are smart" or "gentlemen, you are so athletically talented". Instead, consider, "I saw how hard you studied for this test," or "the shot at the end of the game was really amazing and I saw you patiently waiting for the bench." Emphasizing growth instead of being a tendency to stimulate a child and often proves a better way to praise a child.
Other psychologists and children's development experts have made the same claims and certainly gathered from the evidence to pay. How we care about the child. It seems that on the specific things we say, it matters, and in some cases what we think is useful praise may show that it will bring pressure on the child's life, or lead to not trying to improve. Also focus on their pride, instead of our own, can help them learn more self -esteem. When Pride is always dependent on a parent or adult, how can a child learn to attribute to experiment and learning?