How Does Online Couples Therapy Work?

Multiple couples therapy refers to the treatment of multiple couples with their main focus on their relationship and marriage issues.

Marriage issues are all-encompassing, and their origins and nature are intricate. They are mainly chosen as follows:

Motivation for multiple couple therapy to collapse marriage

Some couples are not married because they love each other, but for some unusual subconscious motivation, because this psychological motivation is to solve or deal with their own internal psychological problems, rather than to marry for marriage, often with The pathological nature makes it impossible to maintain a normal marriage and can easily lead to rupture. For example, some people have just fallen in love and are very empty or discouraged. Under the reaction, they blindly and rashly find a substitute to get married. As a result, it is only after a while that the replacement of hasty marriage is not ideal. contradiction. Some people feel compassion for a friend of the opposite sex and want to "save" or "reform" the other person, and marry the other person in the role of "saver"; shortly after marriage, it is not that they find it difficult to be "save" Disappointment means that the other party is getting better and can no longer satisfy their psychological desires without their "help". There are also people who are married for economic reasons, for immigration abroad, or to leave their unfavorable families, etc. Such unemotional marriages, whose psychological motivation is not sound, can also induce various marriages. problem.

Multiple couples therapy folded couples disagreement

From a personal point of view, husbands and wives each have their own personalities. Such different personalities can often make up for each other and make the differences in personality between husbands and wives complement each other. However, if the personalities of the two people are quite different, it is often the cause of the uncoordinated marriage relationship. The most common husbands and wives' personality disharmony is that the husband is very cautious and takes things seriously, often takes business as the first priority, pays less attention to emotional life, and has a more rigid lifestyle, while his wife is rich in affection, loves change, is more social, and is accustomed to Amusement, as a result, the two are incompatible, disharmonious, and dissatisfied with each other. The other is that the personalities of the husband and wife are very similar, that is, they have strong personalities, do not admit defeat, like to think about and compete, and do not show weakness. As a result, the two always quarrel; They all need to trust others and not be able to exercise their autonomy. As a result, marriage conflicts can be induced.

Multiple couple therapies fold expectations of roles

What should be done and managed by husbands; what should be handled and responsible by wives are the products of social and cultural habits. When everyone grew up from their original family, they unknowingly formed their views on the roles of husband and wife. If the husband and wife are from different social, cultural and family backgrounds, it is likely to bring very different roles for husband and wife, and it is easy to have dissatisfaction with their spouse. For example, a wife became very upset shortly after marriage and cried, saying that her husband never helped her with housework, no matter how busy she was. She said that at home, her father often went to the kitchen to help his mother cook. The husband feels inexplicable. In his family, the father never goes to the kitchen, and the husband is very unhappy that his wife controls the economic power of the family, because his family controls the economic power of the father. For husbands and wives, there is a fixed expectation that they will not be able to accept or establish their own new role as husband and wife, and it will be unpleasant.

Multiple couples therapy folding parents intervention

Sometimes, the marriage conflict comes directly from the interference and influence of the parents' own family. For example, the parents do not support or even oppose the marriage of the children, or the parents are too concerned and over-intervened, which causes the children to lose the autonomy of their intended marriage life. Another example is that the relationship between parents and children is too deep. Children emotionally care about their parents' reactions and try to "filial piety" to meet the hope of their parents. As a result, the spouse feels aggrieved and dissatisfied, which leads to disharmony between the couple. Sometimes, when the parents of the two parties are in a conflict situation, the younger couple is not happy with that one, and makes the other one unhappy, and the other one takes care of the other, this family is displeased, making the young couple as if between the two parents. Jump over the rocker and lose balance if you are not careful.

Multi-Couple Therapy Folds Lack of Art of Life

Some couples, for various reasons, focus their energy on work, parenting, or other things, and have no intention of maintaining their own married life. They believe that as long as they are married, the marriage relationship will be maintained for a lifetime, no need to worry about care. As everyone knows, the husband and wife's emotional life is like flowers and plants, which need to be cultivated and maintained from time to time, otherwise they will gradually wither. Some couples lack communication, and the two rarely talk to each other and exchange opinions. As a result, neither of them knows what the other is thinking, planning, having opinions, or feelings; they only become companions who live and sleep together; they do not know how to cultivate common interests and hobbies. Without a common goal in life, an empty husband-and-wife relationship is created, and it leads to dissatisfaction with marriage.

Multiple couples therapy folds out of extramarital relationships

Whether the extra-marital relationship is caused by poor marriage quality or the influence of extra-marital relationship on the quality of marriage, if one of the spouses is in the place of marriage and has an emotional or sexual relationship with a third party, this is undoubtedly An extremely serious matter. There are various reasons for the occurrence of extramarital relations: either because of the "siege of the siege", illusions of other opposite sexes; or like the new and hate the old, and pursue new stimuli and changes; Those who "take advantage of the imagination" and so on need to be carefully analyzed and carefully guided. In short, the success of a marriage often depends on many conditions. The disagreement between husband and wife is not caused by one or two reasons: it is often caused by many factors that cause difficulties in the marriage relationship. Ordinary couples can rely on their mutual feelings and confidence in marriage to maintain their smooth husband and wife life, but sometimes marital problems are difficult, which requires marriage treatment.

How to avoid the breakdown of husband-wife relationship without eventual divorce? We believe that a successful husband-wife relationship, or partnership, requires knowledge and skills to make it long-term and stable.

Our study surveyed thousands of couples from around the world, and the results showed that the factors that contributed to a successful marriage were divided into two groups. One group of factors such as: attractiveness, caring, romance, and sex, etc. Some factors that start to bring people together. Another group of factors includes skills for managing relationships, such as control, dedication, communication, conflict resolution, and sharing of responsibilities.

Running a successful marriage relationship requires a range of skills. Like other techniques, the skills of managing a marriage relationship may need to be updated to adapt to changing circumstances and situations.

Major problems with couple therapy

Marriage issues are all-encompassing, and their origins and nature are intricate. They are mainly chosen as follows:

Motivation for folding marriage

Some couples are not married because they love each other, but for some unusual subconscious motivation, because this psychological motivation is to solve or deal with their own internal psychological problems, rather than to marry for marriage, often with The pathological nature makes it impossible to maintain a normal marriage and can easily lead to rupture. For example, some people have just fallen in love and are very empty or discouraged. Under the reaction, they blindly and rashly find a substitute to get married. As a result, it is only after a while that the replacement of hasty marriage is not ideal. contradiction. Some people feel compassion for a friend of the opposite sex and want to "save" or "reform" the other person, and marry the other person in the role of "saver"; shortly after marriage, it is not that they find it difficult to "save" the other person. Disappointment means that the other party is getting better and can no longer satisfy their psychological desires without their "help". There are also people who are married for economic reasons, for immigration abroad, or to leave their unfavorable families, etc. Such unemotional marriages, whose psychological motivation is not sound, can also induce various marriages. problem.

Folded couples disagree

From a personal point of view, husbands and wives each have their own personalities. Such different personalities can often make up for each other and make the differences in personality between husbands and wives complement each other. However, if the personalities of the two people are quite different, it is often the cause of the uncoordinated marriage relationship. The most common husbands and wives' personality disharmony is that the husband is very cautious and takes things seriously, often takes business as the first priority, pays less attention to emotional life, and has a more rigid lifestyle, while his wife is rich in affection, loves change, is more social, and is accustomed to Amusement, as a result, the two are incompatible, disharmonious, and dissatisfied with each other. The other is that the personalities of the husband and wife are very similar, that is, they have strong personalities, do not admit defeat, like to think about and compete, and are not willing to show weakness. As a result, the two always quarrel; or the two are passive, and each other They all need to trust others and not be able to exercise their autonomy. As a result, marriage conflicts can be induced.

Expectations for characters

What should be done and managed by husbands; what should be handled and responsible by wives are the products of social and cultural habits. When everyone grew up from their original family, they unknowingly formed their views on the roles of husband and wife. If the husband and wife are from different social, cultural and family backgrounds, it is likely to bring very different roles for husband and wife, and it is easy to have dissatisfaction with their spouse. For example, a wife became very upset shortly after marriage and cried, saying that her husband never helped her with housework, no matter how busy she was. She said that at home, her father often went to the kitchen to help his mother cook. The husband feels inexplicable. In his family, the father never goes to the kitchen, and the husband is very unhappy that his wife controls the economic power of the family, because his family controls the economic power of the father. For husbands and wives, there is a fixed expectation that they will not be able to accept or establish their own new role as husband and wife, and it will be unpleasant.

Parental involvement

Sometimes, the marriage conflict comes directly from the interference and influence of the parents' own family. For example, the parents do not support or even oppose the marriage of the children, or the parents are too concerned and over-intervened, which causes the children to lose the autonomy of their intended marriage life. Another example is that the relationship between parents and children is too deep. Children emotionally care about their parents' reactions and try to "filial piety" to meet the hope of their parents. As a result, the spouse feels aggrieved and dissatisfied, which leads to disharmony between the couple. Sometimes, when the parents of the two parties are in a conflict situation, the younger couple is not happy with that one, and makes the other one unhappy, and the other one takes care of the other, this family is displeased, making the young couple as if between the two parents. Jump over the rocker and lose balance if you are not careful.

Folding the art of lack of life

Some couples, for various reasons, focus their energy on work, parenting, or other things, and have no intention of maintaining their own married life. They believe that as long as they are married, the marriage relationship will be maintained for a lifetime, no need to worry about care. As everyone knows, the husband and wife's emotional life is like flowers and plants, which need to be cultivated and maintained from time to time, otherwise they will gradually wither. Some couples lack communication, and the two rarely talk to each other and exchange opinions. As a result, neither of them knows what the other is thinking, planning, having opinions, or feelings; they only become companions who live and sleep together; they do not know how to cultivate common interests and hobbies. Without a common goal in life, an empty husband-and-wife relationship is created, and it leads to dissatisfaction with marriage.

Collapse of extramarital relationships

Whether the extra-marital relationship is caused by poor marriage quality or the influence of extra-marital relationship on the quality of marriage, if one of the spouses is in the place of marriage and has an emotional or sexual relationship with a third party, this is undoubtedly An extremely serious matter. There are various reasons for the occurrence of extramarital relations: either because of the "siege of the siege", illusions of other opposite sexes; or like the new and hate the old, and pursue new stimuli and changes; or because of the unsatisfactory work and life, let "the third Those who "take advantage of the imagination" and so on need to be carefully analyzed and carefully guided. In short, the success of a marriage often depends on many conditions. The disagreement between husband and wife is not caused by one or two reasons: it is often caused by many factors that cause difficulties in marriage. Ordinary couples can rely on their mutual feelings and confidence in marriage to maintain their smooth husband and wife life, but sometimes marital problems are difficult, which requires marriage treatment.

How to avoid the breakdown of husband-wife relationship without eventual divorce? We believe that a successful husband-wife relationship, or partnership, requires knowledge and skills to make it long-term and stable.

Our study surveyed thousands of couples from around the world, and the results showed that the factors that contributed to a successful marriage were divided into two groups. One group of factors such as: attractiveness, caring, romance, and sex, etc. Some factors that start to bring people together. Another group of factors includes skills for managing relationships, such as control, dedication, communication, conflict resolution, and sharing of responsibilities.

Running a successful marriage relationship requires a range of skills. Like other techniques, the skills of managing a marriage relationship may need to be updated to adapt to changing circumstances and situations.