What Is Assertiveness Training?

Assertive training, also known as affirmative training and decisive training, is a behavioral therapy method based on the principle of adversarial condition action of behaviorist psychologist Guthrie. Self-confidence or positive response is reinforced in a situation, thereby eliminating passive and anxious reactions in that situation. The goal is to train patients to dare to directly express their true emotions, attitudes and ideas, to clearly indicate positive or negative attitudes, to make them confident people, and to learn good interpersonal reactions. ^[1]

If a person has such a contradictory experience, he should receive self-confidence training. So, what is self-confidence training? The so-called self-confidence training is to "treat people who act as patients who dare not touch, and guide patients to express their opinions to him so that Express long-term depressed emotions, attitudes, and ideas, whether they are positive or negative, to achieve psychological balance. Through this training, patients can become self-confident people, and they can learn good interpersonal responses. " ^{[ 2]}

Self-affirmation is mainly manifested in three aspects:

1. Request : Ask others to do something for themselves to meet their reasonable needs.

2. Rejection : Rejecting others' unreasonable needs without harming the other party.

3. Express your opinions and emotions truthfully . In real life, many students exhibit uncertain behavior. For example, when you talk, your eyes are afraid to look at the other party, your sentences are short, you are not afraid to make reasonable demands, you are not afraid to reject others unreasonable demands, and you are afraid to express your dissatisfaction. Looking for a teacher and wait ^[3]

Self-confidence training is a very important way to enhance one's social skills. in life. We often encounter situations where, when dealing with people, if we react according to our original wishes, we may make the other party unhappy, so. We are afraid to do so. However, if we take another approach to please each other, we will make ourselves unhappy. Psychologists believe that if one has this experience. And affect your own life, then it is necessary to undergo self-confidence training. ^[4]

Role-playing

Role-playing is to make the trainees develop a certain behavioral habit or gain a certain experience by playing a role in some specific situations.

Self-confidence training

Imitation is to overcome the self-confident behavior by learning how a more confident person behaves in a specific situation.

For example, for a person who lacks social demeanour, you can let him be welcomed by socializing by observing how others behave in social situations, and then imitating the behavior of others.

Confidence training enhancement and guidance

Reinforcement and guidance refers to the behavioral performance of the trainee, giving praise, affirmation, criticism, negation, and specific guidance to develop it toward a predetermined behavior pattern. This is also an effective way to cultivate one's self-confidence.

For example, when training a trainee to shake hands, he can praise his effective performance so that he can maintain this good behavior, at the same time point out areas for improvement, guide his further actions, and encourage him to continue to practice.